and this is nothing personal (I think at least, it could definitely have a lot to do with where the heart of a person is, which I suppose for them, would be personal- but nonetheless). Just something that I’ve noticed, especially, or maybe most notably, in the people of my generation. These people are friggin obsessed with celebrities and/or social media. Not only celebrities and social media, but fictional characters in movies, T.V. shows, Youtubers, athletes, politicians, etc. We all know this right? It pours over genuine conversation and takes over. Young people, in particular, but also people of all ages can hardly talk about their own lives, interests, family, and passions… because the glamour, drama and dopamine release social media/Hollywood supplies to their brains fills them to the brim. They don’t need true human connection, or anyone else for that matter, right? Look after yourself right? I’ve heard so many people say things like this line lately “Look out for yourself, because no one else is.” Social media is taking over (or attempting to) community, family, and true friendship for some people. Everything they need is in their hand (apparently). Instant Gratification, access to pretty much anyone’s personal lives (or what you think is personal), and answers to any question in one click. You can decide your opinion of someone by viewing their Facebook/Instagram page, and never had spoken a word to them. Who needs anyone else right? I’ve got my own back. Well friends, I jumped off that train a long time ago and don’t plan on getting back on, you know, ever. You know who has my back? Yes, me, but I can’t always rely on my own self. The Lord, Our God does, and I will walk hand in hand with Him until my very last breath.
To me, if you are spending hours upon hours a day scrolling… I’m sorry friend, but you are completely wasting your precious life away. I have definitely been there before, but quickly realized the negative effect it was having on my happiness. It’s addicting, entertaining, and sometimes you can actually learn something. Sometimes though, the negative effects of mindless scrolling aren’t immediate. Some people don’t even notice how distant they have become as friends, partners, or even parents. People don’t realize that some studies show, those who actively use social media most often are three times as likely to have feelings of depression and anxiety (peep article below) to people who don’t.
What I am saying here is, guys, we need to un-freaking-plug. Staring at screens all day, everyday, is living like a zombie to me. Actually one night, I had a dream that my boyfriend had fallen asleep playing video games in his recliner, which is beside our bed. In my dream, I woke up and felt an intense urgency to make sure my boyfriend was okay. I looked over to him in his chair and he was completely limp, eyes wide open, with his controller in his lap. The screens in our room were static with no noise. All I could hear was myself, calling his name. He wasn’t budging. I knew in my dream that he was completely empty, like I had to yell to bring him back to consciousness. Almost like the dream was telling me that the screens would take our souls… Then I heard 3 loud knocks. I mean LOUD. I sat straight up in the bed, and the dream was over. The knocks felt like someone yelling at me “wake up!“. After, I had this thankful feeling rush over me that it was just a dream. The effect of this dream on us though, was a big one. We talked about it and decided to start spending the end of our nights reading together, or listening to a podcast and playing scrabble. We still play video games some nights, but not nearly as many as we used to.
There is a balance to things like this. Just like there is a balance to using social media, and choosing to not use it.
The moral of the story is to be present.
Learn to sit comfortably in the silence. Learn to not have to be entertained, or liked by everyone. Play a board game, read a book. Practice mindfulness. Call your best friend, hear their voice. Pay attention to the ones who are physically around you everyday. The likes on IG don’t matter half as much as how you make the people you come into contact with everyday feel. Remember, our time here can be over in a flash. You are already enough. You don’t have to try any harder.
What if you found out you were dying in a week? How would you spend that week?
Because that is how we should be living every day, of every week of our lives. Not that I do this successfully all the time, but I’m trying. That’s all I want for all of you. I want for everyone reading this to be able to be unapologetically real, wide open, and full of life.